I'm looking at a big group photo of some old college friends who were all at a recent wedding. I find it a bit sad to think that the opportunities for all of these old friends to be together in one place will become more rare as we get older, people drift apart, become less social, attend a new church, marry outside the circle, move across the state or country, have babies, etc.
I've been thinking a lot lately about how I'm going to stay in touch with old friends. I get this feeling like I'm hanging onto the past because I'm all the way out here, but a lot of people have moved on.
What kind of friend do I want to be?
I wonder what the future will bring.
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Having friends all over the world, I've thought about this a lot. On the one hand, long distance friendships take work, and I'd hate to lose a friend just because I wasn't willing to put in the work. On the other hand, though, there is something to be said for focusing on the people who are now a part of your every day life.
Some things I've considered in deciding whether to hang on are:
1) Why were you friends in the first place? Was it common interests or circumstances? Do you still share those common interests?
2) Is their personality such that they are okay with limited and far-between contact? Or do they berate you for not doing a better job keeping in touch?
2) What does that other friend seem to want? Is she focused on her new life, or does she continue to make an effort too?
May you keep your true friends close and let the others go!
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